“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” – Romans 12:18
I know people who seem to have dozens of connectors. They are genuinely close to several dozen people who consider them to be a personal and intimate friend. These “larger Legos” are social butterflies retaining the ability to have a heart-to-heart over coffee at 2:00pm with one friend, before heading over to the baby-shower of another friend at 4:00pm, and finally arriving at home to prepare a meal for a group of friends scheduled to dine at 6:30pm. These people are not frustrated but rather thrive on this social interaction. They have many connectors.
A person with fewer connectors will grow frustrated with trying to keep up with the social lives of others, and may even fall into the trap of loneliness and depersonalization. Because they have fewer connectors and feel obligated to keep connecting with newer people, they may find it necessary to disconnect from deeper friendships in order to make room for someone else.
If you are a smaller Lego with fewer connectors – simply attempt to say no with grace, love, kindness, and understanding. Be keenly aware that you can refuse a friendship in a friendly way. If you are a larger Lego with many connectors – attempt to show grace and understanding to those who may not see the social world in the same way you do.
Are you a Large Lego or a Small Lego? Do you think this concept is correct, or am I way off base?